A Lady has got herself and her husband trending on social media after she shared some private details of how she met her husband a virgin.
According to the lady, when the signs became evident that she will get married to him, she fasted and prayed to God that he erases the memories of every man she’d been with before him.
When hubby and I got serious about courtship, I fasted and prayed, and asked God to erase any ties to and memories of the men I had been with before my husband. I was not coming to our marriage bed with no prior activity. I wasn’t coming to it ashamed or condemned either because I was made clean in Christ, however I wanted to be able to come to my marriage bed with dignity; and for our experience together to be unique to us. He was a virgin and I was not, but I didn’t want that to be a hindrance to our sexual relationship.
People forget that “the marriage bed is undefiled” also means both partners have no sexual ties including memories to any other person past AND present. So I prayed, and consecrated MYSELF. I’m grateful that God erased everything. Not a single recollection. I wanted to have nothing and nobody to compare him to. Part of the reason marriages get into trouble is when couples aren’t sexually satisfied due to measuring their spouse against previous partners. Comparison is truly the thief of all joy. Including the joy of coming together as one. No pun intended.
Here’s the deal: SEX IS LEARNED BEHAVIOR. That means you have to learn your spouse and you will never truly do that living the memories of previous partners before your spouse.
If you’re desiring marriage and you were intimate with someone who wasn’t your spouse, pray about the memories and details of that experience(s) to be removed from your heart and spirit.
